It’s my fault. All of it. Well actually not “ALL” of it, but yet, all of it just the same.
When it comes down to it, I’m the one who is responsible for why my life is the way it is. The good. The bad. The ugly. (Deep breath with cleansing sigh). And you are in the same predicament, just as I am, because of your own doing. Grrr. It’s remarkably frustrating at times to know that we’ve allowed ourselves to settle for less than what we truly deserve. But it’s also astoundingly uplifting and encouraging to know that we’ve created some wonderfully magical things in our lives as well.
When we were born, we were given a certain set of circumstances. What we chose to do with that set of circumstances was all our own. At every moment we chose what to think, what to believe, what to do, who to spend time with, and what to focus on. Sure there were others around us who taught us their beliefs and values, but there came a time when we chose to affirm the truth of those beliefs and values as our own.
We’ve allowed all of the relationships into our lives – the good healthy ones, as well as the unhealthy toxic ones. But don’t fool yourself. There is never a question as to which of these sides any particular relationship falls on; intuitively we always know if it is helpful or harmful. We allow these relationships to reinforce our beliefs about ourselves, our abilities, and our place in the world.
We often allow ourselves to create fantastically plausible “reasons” for why we can’t achieve something or do the thing that we keep saying we want to do. “Now’s not the right time. I don’t have time. I don’t have money. I’m not ready. I have other more important obligations. My spouse won’t let me.” Our excuses sound valid, and we believe them with our entire being… Almost. There is always that part of us that knows the real truth that we are scared out of our minds to do what is necessary. To take that leap of faith and step into the unknown so that we can make our wishes come true. All too often, we allow that louder part of us to squash the honest part about why we are or aren’t doing something.
But what would happen if we allowed ourselves to dive into it? What if we gave ourselves permission to stumble or soar, knowing that either will teach us more than we can imagine when we simply stay stuck and do nothing. And this is why it’s sometimes so frustrating. Knowing that we often get in our own way of achieving all those things we say we want for ourselves. Because we’re in the place we are in life right now because of our choices. If we are happy with where we are, fantastic! We can then keep doing more of what we’re already doing. But if we are unhappy, then it’s time for us to get real with ourselves and start doing something differently.
Begin to claim ownership of all the things in your life. When you do, you’ll naturally start shifting things around and eliminating those things that don’t support your purpose or your goals.
I’m right there beside you, rooting for your success and wishing you all the best as you unlock your potential and experience your possibilities!